The votes are in!

I’ve asked around, and it seems there is one clear reason that no guy wants me: I am intimidating. When my ex-boyfriend told me this, I laughed. And no, he wasn’t citing it as the reason we broke up – for I broke up with him. But after a few seconds, I realized that he was probably right. So I polled my male friends – the ones I’m absolutely just friends with, and asked them to be as honest as possible. These were the results:


Boy One: You’re intimidating. I know you’re just being you, but that’s often tough to compete with.

Boy Two: You have a really strong personality. Anyone who knows you knows they can’t dominate you and that turns some guys off.

Boy Three: Scowling. You’re “relaxed” face is something that would make mothers scoop of their kids and run away. It’s ironic because when you’re talking I can’t recall a time when you weren't smiling or grinning.

Boy Four: Intimidation is your middle name. Right?

Boy Five: You’re a guy. You don’t understand decorative-pillows. You give directions with street names and distances, not landmarks. You game and you vie for world domination. Just now when you said you wouldn’t get mad at me for my answer, I knew it wasn’t some girly ploy to use something against me later. You say what you mean. You’re smart. Men compete for alpha male status. They don’t want to compete with a girl for that.

Boy Six: Intimidation. You’re not intimidating to me, because I’ve known you so long I think. But I can definitely see you being so.



I thought I’d get more varied answers. I thought maybe it was some group of things. I didn’t expect the answer to simply be that so long as I’m being myself, I’m just not dateable. I wonder if there are any boys in the world who like a girl with a strong personality, a brain, and an apparent need to compete for alpha male status.